It’s All In The Company We Keep

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Fulfillling Your Belly Dance Journey - Leyla Najma's Belly Dance Blog

I wanted to write a bit about the belly dance journey and to let you all know that every once in awhile the rose colored glasses come off and reality starts to set in even for us belly dancers. Sometimes women think that self fulfillment will happen magically with this dance and to be honest with you it takes work. But it’s the kind of work that feels more like an entrepreneurial quest. We make the journey what it is, a success or a spiraling drama. At times they kind of go hand in hand but how much really depends on you.

Just remember that you are the same person years later in the dance and the only changes are the levels of success you have with your dance and with yourself. It seems like it’s easy to forget our purpose in this particular dance field especially if you have professional aspirations and you have been at it awhile. Even women who take belly dance classes for self fulfillment reasons only can get caught up in expectations in what type of fulfillment will happen. We really are in charge of our own outcome but more times then not we forget we are our own leader and we start following someone else’s path. This is a major problem for many women because with any type of art we really have to create our own masterpiece. Even dancers who are apart of a troupe bring in their own artistry. With this type of  visual art in front of audiences it is easy to see why belly dance  has an occult like following.

As with any dancer, I started out with dreams and aspirations and they have never left me but the brutal reality of life as an entertainer and performer has tarnished my naive sensibilities.   But in saying this I also  have to admit  that I am a stronger and more focused person because  of what I have experienced. The constant drama of the stage will make any woman a seasoned performer but the important thing to remember is not to lose yourself in the lessons.

The key to the belly dance journey is to stay true to your path and follow your own gut instincts. Did you all know that gut means “God” in Scandinavian? So we just have to remember that God talks to us constantly through our gut feelings. And the gut feelings are apart of us being our own leader but of course with some help. Oh and by the way, this reminds me, sometimes you can feel alone in dance but creativity is really like a life time partner………she’ll never leave you alone and the best part of all is you will always have her by your side.

If we focus on our own gut feelings and creativity the lessons of the stage seem less dubias and  more satisfying. At the end of the day it really is about fulfilling the promises that we make to ourselves even if they were made long ago. The journey is about “you” and how you live life. The journey isn’t about  about who did what or what somebody said because ultimately it’s about what you think of yourself. Friends or no friends you will always be the one walking your path.

Last thought; it occured to me that part of the journey is being the kind of friend to ourselves that we search for in our community. It’s all in the company we keep  so with my gut, creativity and inner knowing of who I am I guess I really am not alone. It’s a good feeling!

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About Leyla Najma

Lifelong professional Belly Dancer dedicated to providing “Belly Dance Instruction That Is Easy To Understand And Learn That Connects The Dots”


4 Responses to “It’s All In The Company We Keep”
  1. Lynne says:

    You hit the nail on the head when you said that about the drama of the stage. Show biz is one of the oldest professions. Even with all the high tech media and how fast performers can travel from one show to the next, the basic stuff still hasn’t changed. It all comes down to being true to yourself just like you said. There are all kinds of people in show biz from the naiive to the unscrupulous. The point is: You have made it, and now you are sharing. You are a rare jewel, because not many people share.

    • Leyla Najma says:

      Hello Lynne,

      Thank you so much for your input. I think the best friend we can ever have is ourselves and once we like who we are, whatever it is we love to do just shows the glow of this feeling. It’s like living in bliss which to me is like a slice of Heaven. Drama anymore to me is just crumbs off my plate. I brush them off or clean them up. Maybe it’s age but I have found the drama queen in me is more laid back now. I hope your New Years is starting off wonderfully! May we all prosper in wealth, health and happiness!

      Blessings and Hugs,


  2. allison says:

    Great Blog!!! Now I know why people say always follow your gut instinct!! Makes sense!